Respecting elders and remembering departed ancestors is a very important part of Chinese traditions. Set aside a table or altar decorated with white flowers for the ancestors. Fruits, a glass of offertory wine, and burning incense are also usually included. A beautiful Chinese alternative to a unity candle is to join two altars during the ceremony. Have two small altars on which the couple can kneel, and after the vows, join the two altars together to represent the new union. Have the immediate family members kneel with the bride and groom at the joined altar as a symbol of unity and joining families. Beautifully inclusive, remember that for Chinese, marriage is more about the families joined than the couple themselves.